Great idea - I watched a bit; three quick thoughts/fixes. I sqw you 'silent' without any intro/music or logo ... it was just you sitting silently so I wondered if it was working; when you started you said 'It's Monday' ... but it's Thursday .. I opened this moments after it came into my inbox ... so, in-cong-grew-is!; and 'having an immediate message of 'preparation and an outline of 'where you are going' .. would be helpful and set the stage for your talk. Cheers, Mark ... and .... p.s. ... did you 'rehearse and record your rehearsal(s) before doing this? ... I think that might be helpful.
Here's the deal, Mark. Every single one of your unsolicited tipperoos has nothing to do with the substance of what I wanted to share with my readers.
And every single thing had to do with normalizing myself for how YOU are expecting to digest information in a digital space. You prioritized your own comfort and norms and totally glossed over the value of what I had to say.
News flash: Livestreams don't have intro music or logos (and I don't have budget or staff to make that happen post-livestream). I actually did have an outline that I read through a few times, but as an autistic woman with an auditory processing disorder, over-prepping and under-prepping often don't do much to help "compensate" or make me more "palatable" for how I sound in live settings. (I happen to think I sound great and am a relatable person who listens deeply, but what can ya do?)
The fact is that video is quite laborious for me (and a LOT of my neurodiverse readers!) to process, maintain connection with camera and also story tell. But I'm doing it anyways, imperfectly, authentically, as myself, with the resources I have available, with the limitations in my brain, body and life.
It's not usually my style to call out anyone who comes into my newsletter, but you stepped into a space that's supposed to be safe for me and my readers. It's a space where we assume the best about one another, we are constantly learning and we endeavor to listen to one another. I can't let anyone think that this was OK at all, and I'd like an apology.
Hi. No apology is called for. I, like you, publish on Substack - and I often see videos on publications but this 'live podcast' tool is new to me. I made NO comments on your subject or content. I don't have an opinion. I DID watch the beginning: it was a 'live-stream' that opened with dead air, there was nothing in script/text or lead-in above the video to tell anyone what would happen or what they would be seeing. I have a lot of experience in public speaking and doing videos that people see online. I was offering some 'style points' suggestions on what I saw as 'obvious first-impression' stuff .. offered 'Great idea - I watched a bit; three quick thoughts/fixes/ as presentation thoughts for a fellow publisher on Substack. The suggestion of rehearsing/preparing is what I coach speakers on and also remind myself - because every time I rehearse and record my rehearsals it's just for me to see as a 'tune-up' to be ready to 'do my best live'. I meant no offense and I apologize for the hasty type/send because I was heading out to a client meeting and waned to offer 'a little help'. Yes, it was unsolicited - but it was thoughtfully offered from someone who is a subject matter expert on public speaking. Best wishes for success, Mark
Three quick thoughts/fixes. Number one, you can't be thoughtfully and hastily typing at the same time you have to pick one. Number two, it's very possible to cause offense without meaning it. When someone gives you feedback about that, it's a good opportunity to think about what you communicated. Number three, 'I'm sorry' would have been a much better start to this reply. Best wishes for success, Glenn.
I have several possible newsletter titles, various themes I deeply resonate with (somatic background here too ^_^), and a whole lot of stuckness (or something) around how to start with all these possibilities which all are alive for me right now. Literally different parts of me are holding and valuing various things. And I’m also considering what kind of content is good and nourishing for me to offer right now.
I’d def really like to get started on writing here, (impatience!), and I’m also wanting to honor this process I’m in. Do you think this class would be helpful for me? :)
Well, I think the silliest answer I can give is that it depends! I definitely have a method for how I work with somatic signals in the context of writing, but I'm also a longtime editor, so I've got a style that invites the chaos to consider a form it would like to take. Your creative ideas may not like the forms I suggest, but the act of considering the forms could spark other ideas in the process. So, it's quite possible that, no matter what, you'll walk away with something valuable. This is my uber ethical way of saying, I can't guarantee anything. 🙃 And also: we'd love to see you there!
Thank you for sharing your insights so generously, Amanda. I can definitely relate to the feelings you describe. Uncertainty about how to move forward can lock us in a very uncomfortable place, not to mention rob us of our ability to create. I wish I could join the workshop today (it sounds amazing!), but I have other obligations that I can’t neglect. I hope you’ll do more workshops, and something will work with my schedule. Fingers crossed. Meanwhile, have an excellent time today!!
PS - Sorry you had to deal with that unsolicited advice. IMHO, your live was great. Your intention and caring shone through with great authenticity. xo
Great idea - I watched a bit; three quick thoughts/fixes. I sqw you 'silent' without any intro/music or logo ... it was just you sitting silently so I wondered if it was working; when you started you said 'It's Monday' ... but it's Thursday .. I opened this moments after it came into my inbox ... so, in-cong-grew-is!; and 'having an immediate message of 'preparation and an outline of 'where you are going' .. would be helpful and set the stage for your talk. Cheers, Mark ... and .... p.s. ... did you 'rehearse and record your rehearsal(s) before doing this? ... I think that might be helpful.
Here's the deal, Mark. Every single one of your unsolicited tipperoos has nothing to do with the substance of what I wanted to share with my readers.
And every single thing had to do with normalizing myself for how YOU are expecting to digest information in a digital space. You prioritized your own comfort and norms and totally glossed over the value of what I had to say.
News flash: Livestreams don't have intro music or logos (and I don't have budget or staff to make that happen post-livestream). I actually did have an outline that I read through a few times, but as an autistic woman with an auditory processing disorder, over-prepping and under-prepping often don't do much to help "compensate" or make me more "palatable" for how I sound in live settings. (I happen to think I sound great and am a relatable person who listens deeply, but what can ya do?)
The fact is that video is quite laborious for me (and a LOT of my neurodiverse readers!) to process, maintain connection with camera and also story tell. But I'm doing it anyways, imperfectly, authentically, as myself, with the resources I have available, with the limitations in my brain, body and life.
It's not usually my style to call out anyone who comes into my newsletter, but you stepped into a space that's supposed to be safe for me and my readers. It's a space where we assume the best about one another, we are constantly learning and we endeavor to listen to one another. I can't let anyone think that this was OK at all, and I'd like an apology.
Hi. No apology is called for. I, like you, publish on Substack - and I often see videos on publications but this 'live podcast' tool is new to me. I made NO comments on your subject or content. I don't have an opinion. I DID watch the beginning: it was a 'live-stream' that opened with dead air, there was nothing in script/text or lead-in above the video to tell anyone what would happen or what they would be seeing. I have a lot of experience in public speaking and doing videos that people see online. I was offering some 'style points' suggestions on what I saw as 'obvious first-impression' stuff .. offered 'Great idea - I watched a bit; three quick thoughts/fixes/ as presentation thoughts for a fellow publisher on Substack. The suggestion of rehearsing/preparing is what I coach speakers on and also remind myself - because every time I rehearse and record my rehearsals it's just for me to see as a 'tune-up' to be ready to 'do my best live'. I meant no offense and I apologize for the hasty type/send because I was heading out to a client meeting and waned to offer 'a little help'. Yes, it was unsolicited - but it was thoughtfully offered from someone who is a subject matter expert on public speaking. Best wishes for success, Mark
Three quick thoughts/fixes. Number one, you can't be thoughtfully and hastily typing at the same time you have to pick one. Number two, it's very possible to cause offense without meaning it. When someone gives you feedback about that, it's a good opportunity to think about what you communicated. Number three, 'I'm sorry' would have been a much better start to this reply. Best wishes for success, Glenn.
Thank you for this Amanda 🙌🙂
Hi Amanda, congrats on the guide!
I have several possible newsletter titles, various themes I deeply resonate with (somatic background here too ^_^), and a whole lot of stuckness (or something) around how to start with all these possibilities which all are alive for me right now. Literally different parts of me are holding and valuing various things. And I’m also considering what kind of content is good and nourishing for me to offer right now.
I’d def really like to get started on writing here, (impatience!), and I’m also wanting to honor this process I’m in. Do you think this class would be helpful for me? :)
Well, I think the silliest answer I can give is that it depends! I definitely have a method for how I work with somatic signals in the context of writing, but I'm also a longtime editor, so I've got a style that invites the chaos to consider a form it would like to take. Your creative ideas may not like the forms I suggest, but the act of considering the forms could spark other ideas in the process. So, it's quite possible that, no matter what, you'll walk away with something valuable. This is my uber ethical way of saying, I can't guarantee anything. 🙃 And also: we'd love to see you there!
Hah, I like it. Thank you for your honesty and playfulness ☺️ I’ll feel into it!
Thank you for sharing your insights so generously, Amanda. I can definitely relate to the feelings you describe. Uncertainty about how to move forward can lock us in a very uncomfortable place, not to mention rob us of our ability to create. I wish I could join the workshop today (it sounds amazing!), but I have other obligations that I can’t neglect. I hope you’ll do more workshops, and something will work with my schedule. Fingers crossed. Meanwhile, have an excellent time today!!
PS - Sorry you had to deal with that unsolicited advice. IMHO, your live was great. Your intention and caring shone through with great authenticity. xo